There's been a lot of talk around the
internet lately regarding "fat-shaming", especially since Maria Kang
came out with her no-excuse mom movement and her infamous photo.
I was reluctant to write about it all
but after seeing bashing from both sides I figure why not give my take on it.
If you have been following my blog or
Instagram account you know that I just recently started my health and fitness
journey at the beginning of 2015. My goal was to become the healthiest me so
that I could be around for my family as long as possible.
I was always skinny or
"average" size growing up. Weight was never a problem for me. I never
gained the freshman 15 in college, I didn't get bigger when I had significant
others. However, fast food and eating out were regulars on my menu and in my
college and early post college days I drank alcohol like a fish. Was I healthy?
Absolutely not! Some people would say I was lucky, but should someone really
feel special because they can abuse their bodies and the abuse does not show up
on the outside?
I believe that during all of this
fat-shaming and skinny-shaming back and forth we have lost sight of what is
important. Society has led us to believe that beauty is measured by weight,
which is absolutely false. Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder and
for me this starts from a person’s character.
The focus truly needs to move from
weight and looks to overall health. Is being overweight or underweight
unhealthy? I believe in most professional opinions it is but by how much? I'm
not a professional so I cannot say - that's something everyone needs to figure
out for themselves. On the other hand can you be at the "ideal"
weight and still be unhealthy? If you smoke 1 or 2 packs of cigarettes a day or
drink like I used to I'm pretty sure you're also unhealthy. Therefore, weight
and looks do not always have a direct correlation to health.
I got back to my pre-pregnancy weight
pretty quickly after baby boy was born, however as any mother knows your
body is never the same after a baby. I tried working out here and there to
"get my body back" but those attempts lasted for a couple of weeks at
most. I wasn't in love with my body but I was content. I am so fortunate hubby
loves me for me so he was also content with my body, or that's what he told me at
least :)
Towards the end of last year
something clicked for me. My weight was "ideal" however I knew I wasn't
healthy. I didn't care what I ate, I didn't do any physical activity
besides chasing baby boy around. The point is, I knew I could do more. I looked
at my baby boy and knew that I wanted to be around for him for as long as
possible. If something happened to me where my life would end before my family
and I were ready, I wanted to know at that moment that I did all that I could
to prolong my health.
At the end of the day it's about
HEALTH. Without it your to-do lists can go out the window. I read somewhere
that most health issues don’t happen overnight – they are the sum of the your actions with your body over a long period of time.
To close, I think one of my favorite women says it best, Suze Orman, financial advisor and expert: “Stand in
your truth”. This can apply to every aspect of your life including health and
everyone’s truth is different. When I stood in my truth, I knew I could do more
and so I did. Maybe your truth is that you’re doing too much and neglecting
other parts of your life that are more important, maybe it’s that you’re not
doing enough, maybe it’s that you don’t know where to start, but only you can
be the judge of that.
I would love to you get your thoughts
on this topic!